Here’s Why You’re Not Where You Want to Be in Life

4 min readJan 31, 2022

Stop copying others.

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I used to read hundreds of articles and watch many videos about how other people attained some kind of success. Don’t we all love those stories? Aren’t they inspiring? Well, it depends on how you handle the information.

Do you see it as inspiration or do you want to re-create someone else’s path, expecting the same result? I stopped consuming this content when I noticed a pattern.

Most, if not all, of these successes involve unique backstories. Some experience an awakening in their lives. They lose their jobs and try something unexpected that works out. Others experience some kind of epiphany after a difficult time that leads them down a specific path. And many are lucky. They were at the right place, at the right time, and things fell into place.

We’re all on different life paths and have experienced very different things that have led us to where we are at this very moment.

So here’s what I do instead of looking at what others are doing.

Define your values

What do you care about? What do you NOT care about? What do you enjoy doing? What do you DESPISE doing? Get honest with yourself and figure out what is meaningful to YOU, not others. This is what will set you on the right path.

Getting to know yourself is one of the most important keys to “making it” in life. The better you know where you are and where you want to go, the clearer your path will become.

So many of us go through life blind because we aren’t clear about what we want!

Realize there’s no set path for anything

No one can tell you what to do or how to do something. There’s nothing wrong with seeking advice or inspiration, but remember that each person’s life journey is different.

There’s no one-size-fits-all. There are MANY ways to become a skilled writer, a millionaire, or a world-renowned archaeologist. There’s also nothing wrong with wanting to stay in the town you were born and live a simple life surrounded by your friends and family.


A 20-something global citizen and polyglot writing about Personal Development, Work, and Mental Health.